“So how do I relax?” I hear you say… Well there are several things that you can do to get yourself relaxed: And that is what happened to me on my first time. If you are in anyway tense or nervous, then your body will react accordingly. It’s not just about being aroused, it’s about being relaxed and open. One of the biggest parts of ensuring that you have the best experience possible is making sure you are in the right frame of mind.
HOW TO HAVE THE BEST ANAL SEX IN FIVE EASY STEPS! STEP ONE: RELAX This guide has been put together to help those would-be bottoms or curious tops navigate their first time with ease and confidence. For me, I want to have the best of both worlds, because there is so much pleasure to be had. I personally never understood why anyone would limit themselves to just being a Top/Bottom – but it really is personal choice. When massaged (through toy use or penetrative sex), it can produce some incredibly powerful and intense orgasms (and let’s be real, who wouldn’t want that?).įor some people, it can play into certain dom/sub fantasies – with the Sub taking on the role of the bottom and being the receiver, with the dom/top giving – it’s a power play thing. Secondly, for those of us born with a penis, it’s where the prostate is. Well that’s a good question, and to be honest – only you can really answer that question! However, my answer to that question would be… BECAUSE IT FEELS SO GOOD!įirstly, the act of penetration in any form is something incredibly sensual but requires a good amount of trust – so to share that with someone is just amazing. I realise this is a long ass introduction to what is essentially just a simple guide to have comfortable anal sex – but I want to tell you my experiences so you know I’m just not talking out my ass! “But hold on a minute…! Why would I want to have anal sex?!?!” It doesn’t have to be scary or taboo – and I now definitely am firmly a believe that it is a complete act of trust, closeness.
The difference this time, was that we actually spent some time getting ready before going ahead.Īnd now, I have the most amazing and satisfying anal sex. At that point, I felt so incredibly stupid – but as we got closer and I learnt to trust him, my opinions towards sex changed – I wanted to experience everything with him. There was no pressure to ever do anything.
And then I met the man who would later become my husband. Just the thought of having something else up there brought me out in a cold sweat, and filled me with a sense of foreboding. As I lay there, I thought back to how I felt watching those porn videos – agreeing that it was DEFINITELY BETTER TO BE THE GIVER THAN THE RECEIVER.Īnd so, for a while – that’s how it was. I don’t think I’ve ever quite felt anything as painful as that since. So we we got naked and he was already ‘raring’ to go, and he slipped on a condom, flipped me onto my stomach, and before I even had a chance to breathe, he was going for it. Eric had spent all night trying to convince me that it was going to be great, and not wanting to disappoint, I obliged. I was nervous, anxious, and no preparation has been undertaken before he (we’ll call him Eric*) decided he was going to dive right in. I had never ever experienced anything like that before – and nothing could prepare me for what was to come. Unfortunately, they seemed more concerned with how good it felt for them, rather than how comfortable I was. Now, when you are a hormonal, shy and unconfident person such as myself (at least back then, anyway) – the thought that someone would actually want to have sex with me was enough for me to completely drop my guard and say OK! When I was 16, and just coming to terms with my sexuality, I spent a lot of time looking at porn (as any healthy teenager would) – and whilst watching these videos, and seeing the way some of the guys reacted to taking a cock up the bum, I decided I definitely wanted to be the giver, rather than the receiver.Īnd then one day, just before I turned 18, I had been seeing someone for a few weeks, and they decided they wanted to ‘go all the way’. But it doesn’t have to be that way, at all. Others see as it as the ultimate act of trust, love and closeness.For me, it was always something to be terrified of.